Donny on Marriage

Follow the Prompts

Here's a rule to consider when you're really upset and want to make sure that you'll share your hurt in a way that can lead to connection.

Look for the Exit

Here's a habit of those who, even in the throes of the darkness of conflict, know how to find their way back to connection.
 

Making Music the Hard Way

Here's a rule - articulated by a young guitarist - on how to stick with the difficult work that it takes to get to connection.

Don‘t Clear the Tank

Here's a rule for dealing with defenses that threaten to block connection.

Keep to Yourselves

Here's a rule for dealing with negative feelings that will steer you away from the "canvas" and towards connection.

Beware of Your Truth

Here's a rule for relationships on how to - and how not to - engage conflict so that you can be validated and achieve true connection.
 

Calling for Connection

Here's a rule for initiating critical conversation that gives them the best chances to climax in connection.

3 Rights Make a Left

Here's a way to use backward criticisms to deal with frustrations... a strategy that will help you maintain safety and facilitate quicker connections. 

The Listening "Rule of Thumb"

Here's a rule for listening that removes every last barrier to really hearing and connecting with your spouse.

How do you field love?

Here's a short question to figure out why you may not be feeling connected to your spouse.